“Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, with all malice and be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” Ephesians 4:31
A few days ago, I went to my Aunt’s funeral. When I was thinking about her before the service, the word that came into my mind to describe her was “kind.” Surprisingly, the Pastor who spoke about her used the same word. He had known her since her younger child was born. He said he could not remember her ever saying a harsh word about somebody else. If she was sometimes irritated or angry, she had learned to keep those feelings to herself. She enjoyed children and taught Sunday School for thirty-five years. He also said that she enjoyed cooking and baking. She would often visit the elderly, ill or shut in members of her congregation to take them a meal or a treat. In fact, he told us that when he entered a home to visit, he was often greeted with the words, “Lois Stover has already been here …would you like one of her brownies?” I bet most ministers would love to have a member like that!
Aunt Lois had some gifts–teaching and serving. She invested them in loving others, not only her family but those often ignored or forgotten. The room was filled with people who remembered her caring and kindness. I’ve heard that many will forget what you say, but they will never forget what you do for them. It seemed true in Aunt Lois’s case.
What words will be spoken at your funeral? Will the Pastor say you used your gifts wisely to help others? Or will he struggle to find something worthwhile to commend? Will others remember you as a person they admired and cared for? Or will they be there only out of duty? Will you hear God’s words, “well done, good and faithful servant?” or will He say, “I never knew you.”
Use your talents like the wise servant. Spend them on others.