1 Peter 3:1-2
Maybe you think you are not a leader. You are not usually the one in charge of a project; you have never been the president of an organization; you prefer to work behind the scenes. However, according to the Via de Cristo talk on leaders, we are all leaders because we all influence somebody. The people we influence most are those within our own family.
The verses above, from 1 Peter, give us a picture of how this might be done. It sounds contradictory, doesn’t it? Lead by submission? How could that work? I like to think of the Biblical concept of “submission” as putting another person first. Submission isn’t being a door mat, accepting abuse, or losing every disagreement. It is about caring for someone deeply enough to put their needs ahead of your own. The Bible actually tells us to do this, not just with our spouse, but with others in our family, our congregation and even the world. This kind of behavior often makes people sit up and take notice. It earns their trust. It makes them willing to listen to what you have to say. It can make them want to emulate you out of gratitude and respect.
Did you know what the biggest factor in determining whether a child continues to attend to church when they grow up is? It’s whether their father attended church. Do you know the most frequently cited influence on a person’s faith life? The answer is “my mother.” Do you know why most people attend a church for the first time? Because a friend invited them. Make no mistake, people are watching you every day–the people at work, your spouse, your children, your friends, your neighbors, even the cashier at the grocery store. Do you use your influence for good? Do they see a life of “purity and reverence?” You are somebody’s leader; think about that responsibility and take it seriously.