How Do You Hope to Die?

Maybe this seems like a morbid topic, but for all of us, death may not be imminent but it is certain.  I lost a close family member recently — he died unexpectedly, in his sleep.  I said to my husband, “isn’t this the best way to die?  No drawn out painful last illness, no time to dwell on what we’ve lost or won’t get to accomplish.”   His answer was, “not really.  I think I would prefer to have a chance to say good bye and tell people all the things I hadn’t gotten around to saying.”

That made me remember Jesus.  He knew he was going to die.  He told his disciples clearly, over and over, although they never seemed to quite believe Him.  On his final day he took some specific actions:

  • He spent time in fellowship with his loved ones, the disciples.  He clearly planned this ahead of time, securing a place for the Passover Supper. (Luke 22:8-13)
  • He washed their feet, as a way to emphasize once more the important values of humility, sacrifice and service he had been trying to each them. (John 13:13-17)
  • He established an important tradition that would continue to evoke His presence with them and love for them. (Mark 14:22-25)
  • He prayed for them, and for the believers who would come after them. (John 17:1-26)

We’re not Jesus and we don’t know exactly when our last day will arrive:

“No man has power to retain the spirit, or power over the day of death.”  Ecclesiastes 8:8

However, in all things, we should strive to imitate Him.  John tells us:

“By this we may be sure that we are in him:  whoever says he abides in him ought to walk in the same way as he walked.”  1 John 2:5-6

Death is a sure thing.  Let’s focus on Jesus and make our death a good one, whenever it comes. Say and do the things that are important, now.  Don’t wait.

For more about death see these posts:

The Darkness of Death

“Even unto death”

Your Dash




3 thoughts on “How Do You Hope to Die?

  1. Great post, Joan. I said to someone recently that I didn’t fear death; I feared dying suddenly and having people see my disorganized house! Your post is a reminder of what’s really important in our day to day, especially during Covid-19, with it’s consequential isolation for millions, especially single folk. (That sentence broke the 25-word rule) 🙈

    My Covid project was a historical but useable household keepsake for my four nieces. It was a big project, but I had fun and learned a lot. Recently, each respective niece came (with spouse) to get their gift, and, despite masks and distancing, these visits were wonderful times of catching up and laughing and expressing our love for one another.

    As I was up so early this morning, I stopped typing this long enough to meet my trash collection guys outside to give them each a Christmas card with a thank you bonus inside. They both appreciated the unexpected gift. 🤗 Isn’t it wonderful to just love PEOPLE. 👍. That’s how I want to die; having loved people and having let them know they were loved and appreciated.

    Thank you for all your posts, which keep me mindful of behaving (with God’s help) as a Christian at all times and with all people: kind, thoughtful, patient, generous, forgiving, … but most importantly, loving.

    If I were there, I’d give you a big (air) hug, dear Joan.

    Happy, joyful Christmas to you and Terry and all your family.

    Love, Susan

    On Wednesday, December 23, 2020, Lutheran Ladies Connection wrote:

    > jculler1972 posted: “Maybe this seems like a morbid topic, but for all of > us, death may not be imminent but it is certain. I lost a close family > member recently — he died unexpectedly, in his sleep. I said to my > husband, “isn’t this the best way to die? No drawn out painf” >


    • Susan, thanks so much for the encouraging comment. I wish I could say that I always “walk the walk” as well as I “talk the talk.” When I blog, it’s a good reminder for me as well.

      Your COVID project sounds awesome — how creative. Maybe I’ll try to think of something along those lines for my girls.

      You also have a blessed Christmas!


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