Some years back Gary Chapman wrote a book about love languages. Since we all have different personalities, we each have a different expression of love that pleases us most. Chapman identified five different ways people show and receive love:
- Words of Affirmation
- Quality Time
- Physical Touch
- Acts of Service
I realized that we could apply each of these love expressions to our relationship with God. After all, we hear God speaking to us through the Scriptures, and also through his servants, our pastors. His presence is always available, and we experience it strongly when we pray. We feel His physical touch in the sacraments of baptism and communion. We are His hands and feet in the world when we serve others, and they feel His love through us. Everything we have is a gift from Him.
So, what’s your love language with God? I’m a word person, so I feel God’s love when I read the Bible, hear the readings and hymns in church, listen to a sermon, even when I read secular books. I feel His guidance as I study. I long to hear the words, “Well done, good and faithful servant.” In the same way, I am drawn to using words to encourage others, to write articles for my blog, our denominational magazine, our church newsletter or even notes to thank or comfort. For me, love is verbal.
This may not be your way. We all have spiritual gifts and our unique talents and personalities influence how those gifts are best used. We all have a deep need for love, and God knows the best way to touch each of us. He knows every love language.
Because your love is better than life,
my lips will glorify you.
I will praise you as long as I live,
and in your name I will lift up my hands.
I will be fully satisfied as with the richest of foods;
with singing lips my mouth will praise you. Psalm 63:4-5
For more posts about God’s love see:
Hesed–God’s Love in Action
Martin Luther on God’s Love (Agape)