Beware, personal opinion rant coming up!!
For years I have noticed that the workers in my building will greet everyone they meet with a “Hi, How are you?” and then they keep walking. I just say Hello and also keep walking. Why do they ask how I’m doing when they obviously don’t want to know?
The time when this would really, really bug me is when I was in the middle of caring for my husband. I was “walking exhausted” all the time. I lived on coffee. In fact, I would drink a half a pot of coffee in the evening just to make it to bedtime. During this time in my life I really wanted to stop these people and just lay into them and let them know how I felt. But I didn’t.
Then there are the people that when you ask them how they are doing (and you really want to know) and they say they are “fine”. What does that mean? You look at this person and you can tell they are not “fine”, but that’s what they say? What’s with that? You are not “fine”. You are feeling lousy, tired, beat-up, but yet you still say “fine”. Please….
I’d like everyone who has the habit (because it is a habit!) of asking how everyone is doing and not really caring, to think about this. If you don’t want to know how someone is doing, Don’t Ask!! But if you do, take the time to stop and ask like you mean it. That person may be having a really rough time. If you ask how they are doing and they tell you about the rough time they are having, then you can listen. Usually there isn’t a whole lot you can do to help them, but really listen, sympathize with them, pray with them. Pray right there and then for them and then tell them you will regularly pray for them and then do it!
And to you all that are always “fine”? Stop it. Let others know that you are not fine. If you need to have someone listen to you, pray with you, then let others know. I know that when I was in the midst of taking care of my husband that sometimes just talking to someone and praying with them would help. It didn’t ease my situation, but it did help to lean on someones shoulder for a bit and unburden myself.
We in the body of Christ need to learn to trust and listen to each other and share our burdens. So start a new habit today… Ask someone how they are doing, and really mean it.