Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives ,when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. 1 Peter 3:1-2
Maybe you think you are not a leader. You are not usually the one in charge of a project; you have never been the president of an organization; you prefer to work behind the scenes. However, according to the Via de Cristo talk on leaders, we are all leaders because we all influence somebody. The people we influence most are those within our own family.
The verses above, from 1 Peter, give us a picture of how this might be done. It sounds contradictory, doesn’t it? Lead by submission? How could that work? I like to think of the Biblical concept of “submission” as putting another person first. Submission isn’t being a door mat, accepting abuse, or losing every disagreement. It is about caring for someone deeply enough to put their needs ahead of your own. The Bible actually tells us to do this, not just with our spouse, but with others in our family, our congregation and even the world. This kind of behavior often makes people sit up and take notice. It earns their trust. It makes them willing to listen to what you have to say. It can make them want to emulate you out of gratitude and respect.
Did you know what the biggest factor in determining whether a child continues to attend to church when they grow up is? It’s whether their father attended church. Do you know the most frequently cited influence on a person’s faith life? The answer is “my mother.” Do you know why most people attend a church for the first time? Because a friend invited them. Make no mistake, people are watching you every day–the people at work, your spouse, your children, your friends, your neighbors, even the cashier at the grocery store. Do you use your influence for good? Do they see a life of “purity and reverence?” You are somebody’s leader; think about that responsibility and take it seriously.
“Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others, faithfully administering God’s grace in its various forms.” 1 Peter 4:10
You’ve probably heard this before: T.E.A.M = Together everyone accomplishes more. It’s true in the church as well as in business. The laity of the church, along with the Pastor are a team. Often the Bible speaks of the church as a “body.” We have different gifts and different functions. We do our best work when all the parts are working together. If one body part isn’t doing its’ job, the whole body suffers.
I’ve had some of my best life experiences working with others in the church. Years ago, I wrote original Vacation Bible School programs for my church. It wasn’t a solo effort. I did the curriculum, but my sister, who is artistically creative, suggested crafts; a member who loved to sing chose and led the music; a preschool teacher gave us suggestions about which things would work well with different age groups; a great organizer became the director. We did this for about five years, and when I see one of those ladies today they often mention what fun we had pulling it all together! I could never have done it all on my own.
This blog is another example. Although my blogging friends tease me about being the obsessive blogger, Michele was the driving force in getting the blog set up and going; Paula made it pretty and added some features we didn’t know how to do; Beth Ann started me thinking about posting songs and music … and so on. It is a true group effort and I just love it when God mixes with us in a way that creates something none of us imagined we could do.
The best thing about T.E.A.M efforts? As Peter says in the quote above, they are a way to pass God’s grace on to others. Isn’t that what the church is all about? So, my advice is, dream big, and then find some others who will dream along with you. Pray, work, and let God use you in amazing ways.
He loves you and so do I!
“I therefore, a prisoner for the Lord, urge you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.” Ephesians 4:1
I hear quite a few people speak about their church as if they are merely consumers, making a choice about what is best for them. They belong to a church for reasons like these:
- I love the Pastor
- It has a great youth program for my kids
- The music is fantastic
- My friends go there
I’ve also heard people reject a church because:
- I don’t feel uplifted
- I’m not being fed spiritually
- I don’t like someone who is a member
- I prefer a different kind of music
Now I am not saying there is anything wrong with loving your Pastor, the music, the programs or the people in your church. There is something wrong with making a choice that’s all about you. I personally believe that the lay people of the congregation are called to be there every bit as much as the Pastor. We’re part of the body of Christ. We all have gifts and talents to build up the body. We’re all needed. We are to be worthy of that calling.
That means our choice of a congregation should be based, in great part, on where God is calling us to serve. It means once we have accepted our call, we need to be humble and bear with others even when we don’t agree with them. It means we don’t change congregations just because we liked the old Pastor better; we don’t get mad and leave in a snit. We settle in, we become family and we work together.
“Look careful then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best of the time, because the days are evil. Therefore, do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is.” Ephesians 4:15-17
You’ve been called. Are you blooming where you are planted? Are you walking in a worthy manner? Are you God’s servant in the place He has placed you? Or are you just a religious consumer?
“But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light. ” 1 Peter 2:9
In medieval times, everyone regarded the monks and nuns, with their religious vows of poverty, chastity and obedience as the truly religious ones. Lay people were simply out of the running. Martin Luther thought this was wrong and the verse from 1 Peter bears reinforces this. Luther maintained that the milkmaid or carpenter was called to serve others in a practical way, and if their work was done to the glory of God, it was as holy as the prayers of the priests. As with so much of the Christian life, it’s all a matter of attitude.
There’s an old story you may have heard that goes something like this:
“A man came across three masons who were working at chipping chunks of granite from large blocks. The first seemed unhappy at his job, chipping away and frequently looking at his watch. When the man asked what it was that he was doing, the first mason responded, rather curtly, “I’m hammering this stupid rock, and I can’t wait ’til 5 when I can go home.”
”A second mason, seemingly more interested in his work, was hammering diligently and when asked what it was that he was doing, answered, “Well, I’m molding this block of rock so that it can be used with others to construct a wall. It’s not bad work, but I’ll sure be glad when it’s done.”
”A third mason was hammering at his block fervently, taking time to stand back and admire his work. He chipped off small pieces until he was satisfied that it was the best he could do. When he was questioned about his work he stopped, gazed skyward and proudly proclaimed, “I…am building a cathedral!”
As lay people, we have all kinds of work. We can choose to see it as service to others, and an opportunity to witness; or we can whine and complain that it’s not very enjoyable. We can work for the glory of God, or we can work for a paycheck that’s never quite enough. In our daily lives we meet all kinds of people. We can see this as an opportunity to serve and witness, or be annoyed because we’re surrounded by those who don’t meet our standards of behavior.
Which mason are you most like? Do you need to adjust your attitude? You’re part of a royal priesthood. Remember what you’re building and who you’re really working for.
“As obedient children, do not be conformed to the passions of your former ignorance, but as he who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct, since it is written, ‘You shall be holy, for I am holy.'” 1 Peter 1:14-16
I just started reading a book titled, In His Image by Jen Wilken, and the first chapter is about holiness. Although holiness is an attribute of God, it is also a quality we need to reflect as God’s people. For humans, holiness means being set apart for God, devoted to God, pure in character — in other words, pious.
Most Christians want to know what God’s will is for them as individuals . What job should I take? Who should I marry? Where should I live? These are things we ask ourselves. According to Ms. Wilken, instead of these questions which all boil down to “What should I do?” we ought to be asking “Who should I be?”
The Bible does not tell us what is the right decision in every case. However, it does tell us quite a bit about who to be in every area of life. Here’s a quote from the book:
“Simply put, God’s will for your life is that you be holy. That you live a life of set-apartness. That, by the power of the Holy Spirit, you strive for utter purity of character (Heb.12:14). Every admonition contained in all of Scripture can be reduced to this. Every warning, every law, every encouragement bows to this overarching purpose. Every story of every figure in every corner of every book of the Bible is chanting this call. Be holy, for he is holy.”
If we are striving to be direct our life to God and His will for us, the other decisions will not loom so large. Piety is not about what we do. We can be holy in any job, any place, any marriage. The circumstances don’t matter, but who we are does.
“As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another, as good stewards of Gods’ varied grace….” 1 Peter 4:10
My devotional reading today was on the book of Jonah, and I’m actually going to be teaching about that book in adult Sunday School in a few weeks … funny how God sends us these little messages, isn’t it? He knows just what we need at any given time. Anyway, the gist of the article was grace. God extended His grace to Jonah, even though he was a sulky and reluctant prophet. He saved him from the belly of the whale, he sent a plant to shade him … Jonah didn’t deserve those things. He tried to run from his calling. He wasn’t very appreciative of Gods’ care. The very worst thing about Jonah — although he accepted Gods’ grace, he was angry when God extended that same grace to the people Jonah hated, the Assyrians.
I think there’s a lesson in this. In the verse above, Peter calls us stewards of Gods’ grace. We’ve all received gifts. I know that I have certain talents, and I also have my health, a good bit of free time as a retiree, an adequate income. Since all these are gifts of Gods’ grace in my life, I need to share them willingly when I see a need. In fact, I should be excited when I can spread some of Gods’ grace around. Most of all, I should be excited to share the good news of the sacrifice of Christ for our sins. That’s truly amazing grace.
Unfortunately, I’m often like Jonah. I may be willing to share with those I love, or those I find deserving. I’m less willing to share with people I don’t know, don’t like or find unworthy in some way. Why should I serve them? They don’t deserve it and may not appreciate it. However, here’s the thing — it’s only grace because we don’t deserve it. If we could earn grace, we wouldn’t need God (or anyone else) to give it to us.
So today, let’s spread some grace around: lend a hand; forgive; bake some cupcakes for your neighbor; give up your place in line. You need it; I need it; everyone needs it, whether they know it or not.
The topic of this month reminds me of something that I change more than anything else in my life: my diet. As many thirty-something woman know, the quest to remain thin, pretty, and ‘young’ often pervades our minds to the point of obsession. We no longer have that long-missed metabolism that allows us to eat double hamburgers and coke without the thought of weight gain. As a result, I have tried almost every diet possible to obtain my previously thin frame. I have been a Cross Fit athlete, ate nothing but protein bars and chicken, been vegetarian, vegan, gluten-free, and almost everything else in between. It is practically a running joke with my family. At every visit, they have to inquire as to what my current ‘taboo’ foods are. Well, on my last visit, my family and I discussed a passage from 1 Peter, Chapter Three:
3 Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear, but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.
Although perhaps not directly related to dieting, this scripture does make me think of the sins of vanity and pride. I am a happily married woman, healthy, and able-bodied. Focusing on outward appearances is not what God wants from us. God wants for us to believe in his word, follow his commandments, and above all, to be in service to others through him. This verse reminds to pay attention to the important things in my life. Time on a scale could be better spent calling up a neighbor to check on them. An hour fixing my hair and make-up would be better spent communing with friends and family. As stated by a Facebook Meme that I once read: Mother Theresa was not worried about the size of her thighs- she had things to do! With this in mind, I work daily to improve myself in the way that God would want, not in the way that my sinful self seeks. After all, when I stand at the gates of heaven, I don’t expect to be asked to weigh in! :))
Years ago, when our younger daughter Kate(now one of the Lutheran ladies) had just started high school, I received a phone call from the school office. I was told that Kate would be suspended for three days because she was caught smoking. The school secretary was somewhat apologetic, probably because Kate was a good student, and explained the punishment was mandatory. She added “We want you to know that Kate was very respectful and polite when we questioned her.”
Of course, I was unhappy and disappointed. However, I know that teenagers push the boundaries and I trusted Kate would learn from her mistake and its’ consequences. Surprisingly, the school called me back later the same day to say they had been wrong, and Kate would not be suspended. Kate insisted that she was not smoking. Because of her past history and her courteous behavior, the principal spoke with the coach who reported the smoking incident. She had seen Kate with a group of students who were smoking, and assumed Kate was also. She admitted she did not actually see Kate with a cigarette.
By this time you’re probably wondering, “and what is the point of this story?” Well, here it is: Kate’s prior behavior and courtesy earned her a hearing. The school took a second look at the evidence and realized Kate was telling the truth. As Christians we can learn a lesson from this. The Bible tells us:
“… Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope you have. But do this with gentleness and respect.”(1 Peter 3:15).
People will not listen to the good news of the gospel from a person they perceive as self righteous. They will not listen to a person who buries them in Bible verses without giving them a chance to respond. They will not listen when they are treated as if the views they hold are ignorant or stupid.
Many people today know practically nothing about Christianity beyond generalities that they accept as truth. They’ve heard a lot of New Age nonsense about what it means to be spiritual. They may have been told that all religions are the same, just different paths to God. To them the Bible is simply another book they haven’t read and they have no incentive to accept what it says. To give them “ears that can hear” we must first earn their trust. We must listen to them respectfully, and then, when the opportunity presents, gently explain our own beliefs. We can tell them about our personal experiences and the things we know to be true as witnesses, not theologians or even students of the Bible. We can answer their questions without being condescending. If our attitude and behavior is caring, kind, and humble it may lead some to take a closer look at what we have to say. Then we can trust the Holy Spirit to do the rest.
If you are shy (like I am), you may try to avoid the whole issue of witnessing by telling yourself, it’s just not my gift. Evangelism is listed as a distinct ministry in Ephesians 4:11-12
“And he gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the pastors and teachers, to equip the saints for the work of ministry, for building up the body of Christ..”
However, years ago I attended a witnessing workshop at my church. The big take away I got was this: we are not all evangelists, but we are all witnesses. Why? Well, a witness is simply someone who has seen an event and is therefore able to testify about it. As Christians every one of us has seen what Christ has done in our own life. We all have a testimony to give. It doesn’t mean speaking before crowds, knocking on doors or randomly stopping strangers to explain the plan of salvation. It does mean:.
“…always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you.” 1 Peter 3:15
You can keep it simple. You don’t have to know everything. You just have to know what Jesus Christ means to you. Even the apostle Paul, who was a gifted evangelist said:
“I decided to know nothing among you except Jesus Christ and him crucified.” 1 Corinthians 2:2
So, be ready. Know the basics. Look for opportunities. Banish fear and trust in the Holy Spirit to guide you. You are a witness.
Who exemplifies this verse to you? It always makes me think of my mother. She is in a nursing home now with Parkinson’s disease and dementia, but that gentle and quiet spirit still shines through.
How does the Bible describe gentleness?
“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Proverbs 15:1
Many people in mom’s situation are angry and frustrated. They act out and make difficulties for those around them. I know mom is frustrated, too, when she cannot find the words to tell us what she wants, or can’t remember the answer to a question we ask. Yet, I have never seen her behave in an angry, rude or confrontational way.
“…walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, bearing with one another in love, eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.” Ephesians 4:1-3
Mom has always been a humble person, never one to be demanding, or put herself first. She bears with her situation patiently.
“Remind them to be submissive to rulers and authorities, to be obedient, to be ready for every good work, to be gentle and show perfect courtesy toward all people.” Titus 3:1
Once again, gentleness seems to be associated with courtesy. My mom’s behavior always taught me to be kind and courteous to others. Courtesy doesn’t seem to be valued these days, but it can go a long way toward winning someone over. Listen to this:
“…always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you: yet do this with gentleness and respect.” 1 Peter 3:15
Being gentle will further our witness to Christ. Who has taught you the art of being gentle? We want to hear your story.