For starters, I should mention that Joyce Meyer is a Charismatic, and Lutherans will assuredly have issues with some of her views on theology and worship. This book, however, focuses on how to honor and obey God in our relationships, a topic on which we Christians can agree.
Every one of us must deal with difficult people in our lives. Often these folks are family members, fellow Christians or neighbors. We’re called to love one another, but how do we do this when others are being disagreeable? Here are some thoughts and suggestions from the author.
- Love is not just a feeling, it is action. We can behave in loving ways, even when we don’t feel loving.
- Pray for the difficult person instead of arguing with them. It’s hard to stay angry with someone for whom you are praying.
- Pray for yourself, as well, as you are 1/2 of the problem.
- Try to be unoffendable. Everything isn’t about you, and you do not know what is actually in the heart of the one who has upset you.
- Think the best of others, and only speak positively about them. Everyone has good qualities, even those we find difficult.
- Do not gossip, or listen to gossip. Tell anyone who wants to complain about another person to go to them directly to work things out
- Listen and don’t make quick judgements — they’re often wrong.
- Be patient. People don’t change quickly.
- Remember that hurting people hurt others. Someone who is behaving in a difficult way, is probably hurting, or has been hurt in the past.
- Be a peacemaker. A peaceful solution is more satisfying in the long run than getting your own way.
This is not an exhaustive list but gives you an idea of the topics covered. All are discussed and handled according to biblical principles. At the end of the book, you will find a list of Scriptures about forgiveness and finding freedom from offense.
VERDICT: 4 STARS. A good read for a Christian book club or small group discussion.
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