When Words Matter Most by Cheryl Marshall & Caroline Newheiser–Book Review

Sometimes we’re called to speak the truth into the life of a friend, and some times are easier than others. We may need to encourage those who are worried, provide strength to the weak, admonish those who are going astray or comfort the grieving. All of these are times when we can come alongside one another with words that help and heal. In this book the authors share stories of women they have personally known who have been impacted by hearing and applying the word of God to their lives.

Part 1 covers the biblical basis for building one another up through our conversations, and the kinds of situations that may arise. The authors emphasize the need to speak the truth “in love”, even when the subject broached is difficult. We are to be “gracious friends”– friends who listen, forgive, and serve sacrificially. Part 2 gives readings from scripture to suggest to those who are struggling in different ways –worried, weary, wayward or weeping. Knowing some appropriate verses will help us to gain confidence in speaking the right word at the right time.

At the end of each chapter there are questions that could be used in a small group study or for individual journaling. There are also some recommended resources at the back.

VERDICT: 5 STARS. If you’re a word person (as I am) you’ll love it; if you’re not, you’ll get some helpful suggestions. An easy read, perfectly biblical in approach and content.

The Lutheran Ladies received a free e-copy of this book in return for a fair and honest review.. Disclaimer pursuant to FTC 16 CPR 255.

For more about the importance of our words see:

Thankful Words

Words of Praise

Truthful Words

An Audience of One

Somewhere recently (sorry, I couldn’t find the citation, even on google) I read that when a pastor preaches, he should imagine he has an audience of one.  In other words, he should not aim to please his congregation, the visitors to his website or the world at large — his only purpose should be to please God.  I’m sure many of them have this in mind, because I have heard more than one minister start his sermon with this verse:

“Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer.”  Psalm 19:14

It occurs to me that this advice is sound for all of us, not only pastors.  We should all be living our lives this way– and not just the words that come our of our mouth, but our behavior.  Too often we’re people pleasers.  We don’t want to offend.  We don’t want to make others angry or stir up controversy.  We don’t want to sound judgemental.  We try to be “politically correct.”  We worry about whether our friends on Facebook or our twitter followers will desert us.  We want to fit in.  We want others to like us.  We want to be admired in the workplace.  We allow these feelings to influence us, and that may mean we keep quiet when we should speak up.  We tone down the Gospel.  We do or say things we know to be wrong to avoid looking prudish. We want our worldly audience to think well of us.

I’m not advocating beating others over the head with the Bible or behaving in ways that imply we’re better than they are (we’re not–we just know we’re bad!)  We can speak the truth in love, gently and respectfully, but once we know the truth we must be willing to speak it and live it.  Play to your audience.  He’s the only One who counts.

“So whether you eat or drink, whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” 1 Corinthians 10:31